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- 2011.06.25 How to Get Neighbors to Turn Down the Noise - http://www.tenant.net/Other_Areas/Calif/misc/noise.html
- 2010.08.11 [스크랩] 마음의 평화를 위해-남을 덜 미워하는 방법
- 2010.07.19 잘난 척 하는 사람 이기는 법...
- 2009.04.08 My fitness coach
How to Get Neighbors to Turn Down the Noise - http://www.tenant.net/Other_Areas/Calif/misc/noise.html
| 주저리 주저리 2011. 6. 25. 04:05by Cora Jordan
Copyright (c) 1994 Nolo Press
This article originally appeared in the Fall 1994 issue of the Nolo News. It was adapted from Neighbor Law: Trees, Fences, Boundaries and Noise (2d edition), published by Nolo Press. You may copy this article as long as you include this copyright notice.
- Talk to Your Neighbor
- Get a Copy of Your Local Ordinance
- Warn Your Neighbor in Writing
- Suggest Mediations
- Call the Police
- Sue for Nuisance
- If You're a Tenant
- About Neighbor Law: Trees, Fences, Boundaries and Noise
It's 2 in the morning. You're lying in bed trying to sleep because you have a big meeting tomorrow morning. You feel a pounding sensation in your head. At first, you think it's a headache. But then you realize that it's the funky disco beat blasting from your next-door neighbor's stereo, reverberating through your bedroom and rattling your windows.
Before you pound on the neighbor's door and yell something you'll regret, or, even worse, resign yourself to living with the noise, try some more constructive alternatives.
Your first step is to talk to your neighbor and try to resolve your differences in person. It's hard to believe, but sometimes neighbors are not aware that they are causing a disturbance. Even if you're ready to punch somebody's lights out, try a little sugar instead.
2. GET A COPY OF YOUR LOCAL ORDINANCE
Your next step is to get a copy of your local noise laws. Most cities and counties have ordinances that control the times, types and loudness of noise. For example, many local ordinances prohibit unreasonable vehicle noise (like honking the car horn early every morning for a carpool) or dogs barking all night long every night. Noisy neighbors are in for a warning or even a fine. You can look up your local ordinance at city hall, a public law library or the public library. Make at least two copies of it, one for your neighbor and one for yourself.
3. WARN YOUR NEIGHBOR IN WRITING
If things don't improve, ask your neighbor again -- this time in writing -- to quiet down. Don't make threats, but state that if the situation doesn't improve you'll be forced to notify the authorities. Enclose a copy of the noise ordinance. Keep a copy of your letter; you'll need it if, as a last resort, you later sue your neighbor.
Most cities offer free or low-cost mediation services, which means they provide an impartial mediator who will sit down with you and your neighbor and try to help you resolve your differences.
Just call the mediation service; someone there will contact the neighbor and suggest mediation. (These people are very good at convincing others to give mediation a chance.)
If you have done all of the above and your neighbor has responded by turning up the volume, now is the time to call the police (or the Animal Control officer if the problem is a barking dog). Try to get the police to come while the noise is occurring.
Of course, you can call the police on a noisy neighbor the first time the music gets too loud for your taste. But the police will be more sympathetic to your situation if they see that you have tried to solve the problem on your own.
If all else fails, you can get your neighbor's attention-and maybe some money-by suing in small claims court. You can sue your neighbor for nuisance if your neighbor's noise unreasonably interferes with your enjoyment of your property. In the lawsuit, you ask for money to compensate you for the interference with your right to peacefully enjoy your home.
Small claims court is easy and inexpensive, and you don't need a lawyer. You will need to show the following:
- There is excessive and disturbing noise.
- Your enjoyment of your property is diminished.
- You have asked the person to stop the noise (your letter should be enough to prove this).
To prove your case, you can use police reports, witnesses, recordings, your own testimony and the testimony of neighbors or other witnesses.
The amount you'll want to ask for will depend on how much the noise bothered you. Did you lose sleep? Were you unable to carry on your usual activities, such as reading, playing music or talking to friends? Decide on a reasonable dollar amount per day, and multiply that figure by the number of days you've been seriously bothered. The amount of money you can ask for in small claims court is limited, between $2,000 and $5,000 in most states.
Noisy neighbors are always bad news. But when you share walls with the insensitive neighbor, the problem is especially vexing. The good news for renters is that, in addition to all your other options, you have built-in allies in the battle to keep your apartment livable: your lease or rental agreement and your landlord.
Remember the lease or rental agreement you signed? Chances are your neighbor signed one too. Standard leases and rental agreements contain clauses that entitle you to "quiet enjoyment" of your home. A neighbor who is blasting the stereo in an unreasonable manner is probably violating the lease or rental agreement and can be evicted for doing so.
If you warn your neighbor about the noise in writing and are sure that your lease entitles you to a reasonable amount of quiet, send a copy of the lease along with your letter. In your letter, tell the neighbor that the next complaint will be to the landlord or neighborhood association if the noise continues.
If warning your neighbor doesn't work, go to your landlord. Most tenants don't like to complain to the landlord or manager about unreasonable noise or other nuisances because they are afraid of being branded as troublemakers. But other neighbors are probably bothered by the noise too. Get together with them and complain to the landlord as a group. It's easier and you might get faster results. Most landlords don't want arguments between tenants and won't put up with tenants who cause trouble by ignoring signed lease or rental agreements. Your landlord will probably tell the noisy tenant to pipe down or face eviction.
[스크랩] 마음의 평화를 위해-남을 덜 미워하는 방법
2009.06.26 17:07 | 좋은 글 | flyfishhttp://kr.blog.yahoo.com/skkimrt3/724364

분명 나에게 중요한 영향을 미치는 사람이고 가까이 지낼 수 밖에 없는 관계인데도, 그 사람을 좋아할 수 없고, 때로는 미워하게 되기도 하는 경험이 있는지? 1. 자주 만나라. |
잘난 척 하는 사람 이기는 법...
잘난 척하는 사람들은 실제로는 굳이 잘난 척을 해야만 안심이 될
만큼 열등감에 사로잡힌 사람들이다.
그들은 최고 대학의 법대를 졸업하고도 사법고시에 낙방한 사실을
유난히 부끄러워 하는 사람,
지금은 크게 성공했지만 비참했던 지난 시절을 감추고 싶은
사람들이다.
" 벼는 익을 수록 고개를 숙인다." 는 말은 열등의식이 강한 사람이
고개를 뻣뻣이 든다는 말의 역설이다.
우리나라에는 약간의 권력만 가져도 잘난 척하는 사람들이 많다,
목에 힘을 주는 주차 관리인이나 지나친 방법으로 출입을 통제하는
건물 출입 관리인, 낯선 사람은 무조건 침입자로 모는 동네 방범대장,
10여 개의 직함을 나열한 명함을 내미는 교수나 기업인,
연장자도 아랑곳하지 않고 약간의 직급차이를 내세워
첫 대면부터 반말하는 사람등..
무수히 많다.
잘난 척하는 사람들은 어떤 모임에 참석하건 모임을 자기 방식으로
끌어가고는 " 내가 나서지 않으면 모임이 엉망이 된다."고
떠든다.
그러므로 이들과 같이 지낼 생각만 해도 매우 피곤해질 것이다.
그러므로 잘난 척하는 사람도 얼마든지 유쾌하게 이길 수 있다.
잘난 척하는 사람들이 가장 중요시하는 것은 명예다.
잘난 척하는 사람들이 상대방의 입장을 고려하지 않고 함부로
말하거나 타인에게 발언권을 주지 않는 것은, 자신의 보잘것없는
현실이 드러나는 것을 막기 위해서이다.
따라서 이들을 이기려면 인정하기 싫더라도
그들이 중요시 하는 명예를 인정해주어 이익을 얻는 것이 낫다.
나는 한동안 관공서에 갈 때마다 주차장 아저씨와 맞딱뜨리는 것을
가장 두려워 했다.
관공서의 주차 관리인들은 대부분 " 아줌마 거기는 지정 차 들어올 게예요
딴데루 가봐.." 라고 반말을 하는 등
자신의 권한을 최대한 휘두르며 잘난 척했기 때문이다.
그러나 커뮤니케이션 전문가로서 이들과 싸우지 않고
이기는 방법은 없을까?를 연구한 끝에
" 당신이 뭔데 반말이야?" 라고 대꾸하고 싶은 것을 꾹 참고,
" 당신 능력이라면 어디든 주차할 곳을 찿아줄 수 있지 않나요?" 라고
말하기로 한 것이다.
그 결과 어떤 주차장을 가든지 그들이 내가 주차할 공간을
찿아 준다는 것을 깨닫게 되었다.
잘난 척 하는 사람들은 다른 사람들에 비해 공명심이 강하다.
그러므로 자존심을 살려주면 자신의 이익에 반하더라도
열심히 도와주기 때문에 예상보다 더 많은 것을 얻을 수도 있다.
출처: 유쾌하게 이기는 법 中
Wii 용으로 나온 새로운 운동 게임
맨손 체조가 뭐가 그리 어렵겠냐고 생각했건만, 땀은 뻘뻘흐르고
1시간 정도하면 근육도 뻐근해지는 아주 골때리는 게임이었다.
무엇보다도 에어로빅 체조에서 쉴틈을 안주기 때문에 연신 흐르는 땀 닦을 시간 조차도 충분하지
않다는 것...
Wii fit 보다 한단계 업그레이드된 게임이 아닌가 싶다. 과연 체중 감량 효과가 있을지는 두고봐야겠지만.
요즘 자전거만 타는 것이 뼈에 안좋다는 것을 알게되고, 다른 운동을 찾고 있었는데, 나름대로 괜찮은
운동법인 것 같다.